Recently, an old friend who I was staying with asked me if I wanted to sleep with him. I declined. To cut a long story short, he got upset, angry, used his physical size to try to intimidate me, and kicked me out of the house. Leaving aside the mismatched expectations, what went wrong in […]
Have you ever experienced a friendship that inexplicably changed when something great happened in your life? You got a better job. You came into a windfall. You begin dating someone who is smarter, richer, or more romantic partner than their partner. You got into the university they really wanted to get into. You had a […]
Weird stuff happens whenever I feel disconnected from other people. Technology especially has an amazingly regular habit of malfunctioning. My Internet connection gets flaky. My mobile phone falls off the network and flat-out refuses to receive messages for days at a time. Saying I feel disconnected from other people is really just a synonym for […]
Today I was reading the reflections of fellow personal development blogger Karen Bell when the following sentence stopped me dead in my tracks: All of a sudden I realised that one of the main reasons I’m attracted to personal development is a subconscious fear of not being “good enough” just as I am…I noticed the […]
Have you ever made an enormous change in your life? How did your family and friends react? Did they support you, or did they try to knock you off the path you wanted to follow? You can’t underestimate the importance of a good support network in your life. When you want to change your life […]
One thing I used to find particularly difficult after coming out of serious, long term relationships was the awkwardness of being single at parties, dinners, and other social occasions. A partner by your side for social occasions is comforting when you hardly know anyone else in the room. You always have one another to communicate […]
Nobody is perfect. I know I’m not! There are times that we get so wrapped up in our own lives that we neglect and upset the people close to us without intending to. I’m going to tell you about a recent example from my own life where I screwed up in one of my friendships, […]
I’ve finally returned from my Vipassana meditation course, and have had a chance to settle back into normal life. It was definitely one of the hardest things I have ever done, but also one of the most beneficial. I had a few reasons for wanting to take some time out and do a meditation course. […]
Have you ever been popular and surrounded by people who enjoy your company, but still felt like something was missing? Do you enjoy the company of many acquaintances, but lack that deep connection with select few close friends to share your hopes, problems, and dreams? Last year when I wanted to make new friends I […]
Let me tell you about a girl who went through early life as a geek, recluse, and resident ‘weirdo’. She had few friends and a bare minimum of social skills to speak of. Speaking of speaking, she didn’t do much of that either. She didn’t enjoy parties or clubbing. She didn’t like meeting or being […]